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Mindful with J
I'm sitting in my friend W's backyard, making a choo-choo train out of rocks with her 28-month old son while Mama rests inside. I've known W since she was a…Read more... -
Meditation: reducing noise in your brain or improving policy?
I recently read a very interesting paper by Shadlen and colleagues, who discussed the neural correlates of decision making. In this paper they discussed the issue of responsibility: if our…Read more... -
Bringing Compassion into Everyday Life
Compassion is a gift that keeps on giving. When you develop a sense of connection and genuine concern for others, you not only help them with your presence and actions,…Read more... -
Mindrolling Jetsun Khandro Rinpoche: Mindful Awareness without the Cushion
Here is Khandro Rinpoche on how we can keep the mindfulness we discover on the cushion as we go about daily activity. Hearing from my friend Gabriele that Rinpoche would…Read more... -
Insanity, Espresso and Teenage Wisdom
“Are you insane?” was one of my first thoughts on this melancholic and allegedly spring morning. My alarm was set early so that I could drag myself out of bed…Read more... -
Isn't It Amazing? No Matter What, Our Undistracted Mind is Always Available to Us!
Sometimes I feel like my life is spent in a dark, smoky, crowded, and noisy nightclub and that I’ve forgotten that there’s a door that’s always open if I choose…Read more... -
Meditation & compassion – how do they fit together?
The Buddhist teachings tell us that wisdom and compassion are like the two wings of a bird that will fly you to enlightenment and that you need both wings in…Read more... -
Compassion is Expanding the View of Self
This five minute video is the first part of a fascinating skype conversation between Elizabeth Namgyel and Erric. Elizabeth describes compassion as a radical expansion of self. Then she gives…Read more... -
Love and Insecurity
Not long ago, I fell in love with a beautiful woman. Gently, we became a bit closer. She rejected me, right at the moment, when I was SURE that we…Read more... -
Social Emotional Learning and Mindfulness-based Contemplative Practices in Education
A Meditation from the Field from Linda Lantieri and Madhavi Nambiar Mr. Gray, an educator in his second year of teaching in New York City wrote out his resignation letter…Read more...
To give your sheep or cow a large, spacious meadow is the way to control him. If you want to attain perfect calmness in your zazen [meditation], you should not be bothered by the various images you find in your mind. Let them come, and let them go. Then they will be under control.
Suzuki Roshi
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Tahlia Newland
Hi. I’m a creative maniac who writes fantasy and magical realism that questions the nature of reality, mind and perception. I’m also an avid reader, extremely casual high school teacher and occasional mask-maker. I’ve studied the mind and philosophy in various forms most of my life and studied and practiced with Sogyal Rinpoche since 1996. After creating and performing in Visual Theatre shows for 20 years, I'm now a bone-fide expatriate of the performing arts. I live in an Australian rainforest, am married with a teenage daughter and love cats, but I don’t have one because they eat native birds.
Along with some friends, I set up the Rigpa Australia Distance Education Centre (The Bush Telegraph) in 1998 and was the Teaching Services Director until early 2012. I have instructed for Rigpa since the year 2000.
I’ve published a collection of short stories on ebook called A Matter of Perception. My agent is trying to find a publisher for my young adult fantasy novel and I have a young adult magical realism novella set for publication in June. It’s called Give Me a Break, has an anti-bullying theme and includes simple instructions for meditation and loving kindness.
Blogs I write for:
The Happy Honkers; helping you be happy. Happiness hints, inspirational quotes and posts on meditation and living life with an enlightened attitude. http://happyhonkers.wordpress.com
Tahlia Newland, author; illuminating reality and challenging perception. Fantasy book reviews and posts on reading, writing & creativity. http://tahlianewland.com/blog
Tahlia’s Masks. My mask shop and posts on art. http://tahliasmasks.wordress.coom
The Awesome Indies. Reviews on quality Indie published books. http://awesomeindeies.wordpress.com
I told you I was a maniac! Inspiration is my middle name.
Meditation & compassion – how do they fit together?
The Buddhist teachings tell us that wisdom and compassion are like the two wings of a bird that will fly you to enlightenment and that you need both wings in order to fly. What does that mean for us?
First of all we might just reject this as irrelevant to us because we don’t think we want to be enlightened, we’ll settle for happiness. What we don’t realize, however, is that enlightenment is just a fancy name for the highest form of happiness, a state that is not only our birthright but the end point of our evolution. We’re heading there anyway, whether we think we want to or not. Some of us aren’t moving of course, some of us are even going backwards, but our innate desire for happiness will keep pulling us towards it.
How meditation helps us see reality
We make assumptions all the time. My mother used to call it ‘jumping to conclusions.’ It means that we perceive what is happening based on what we think, rather than what is. Sometimes it might be the same, but when we get it wrong, we can make a real mess of things. For instance, if we decide to spread bad rumours about the friend who was whispering about us because we’re sure that’s what she was doing to us, that surprise birthday party will probably never happen and we’re likely to lose a friend as well.
Meditation is the basis of happiness
Happiness doesn’t depend on what happens to you, but on how you see, think and feel about what happens to you.
Here’s an example: John and Jenny are visiting their Grandma. She serves them a cream filled chocolate cake. John is happy because he likes chocolate cake but Jenny is unhappy because she has sworn off eating chocolate cake and having one in front of her is making it extremely difficult for her to stick to her vow. It’s the same external situation for both people, but one is happy about it and one is unhappy.
Driving meditation
What do you do with your mind when you drive? Do you think about what you have to do when you get where you’re going? Do you mull over your problems? Do you sing along with music and lose yourself in the words and a memory of the video clip that goes with it? Are you cursing the idiot in that Porsche up ahead, or getting irritated because the traffic is too slow? If you’re doing any of this, ask yourself if you’re as aware of the road as you could be? Is there a safer, more relaxed way to hold your mind as you drive? Answer – yes.
School meditation
I’m a casual high school teacher. In some countries it’s called a ‘supply’ teacher, some kids call me a ‘substitute’ teacher. If they say, ‘oh yay, we have a sub,’ I say, ‘Yep, you’ve got Super-sub.’ I prefer the term ‘casual’ because I like to be casual about my work. That doesn’t mean I don’t take care to do my job well, I do take care, it means that I view my work with a light touch.
If you don’t have a sense of humour as a teacher, you go a little crazy. You get grumpy, dour and just plain unhappy. The kids can be tough. Some of them see a change of teacher as a reason to play up. I don’t take any of it personally. That helps me stay calm, and when I’m calm, I can be clear. When I’m clear minded, I’m more likely to make wise choices about how to handle situations. If I stay calm and clear, my day is fine, no matter what the kids throw at me, so I practice meditation throughout the day.





