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Mindful with J
I'm sitting in my friend W's backyard, making a choo-choo train out of rocks with her 28-month old son while Mama rests inside. I've known W since she was a…Read more... -
Meditation: reducing noise in your brain or improving policy?
I recently read a very interesting paper by Shadlen and colleagues, who discussed the neural correlates of decision making. In this paper they discussed the issue of responsibility: if our…Read more... -
Bringing Compassion into Everyday Life
Compassion is a gift that keeps on giving. When you develop a sense of connection and genuine concern for others, you not only help them with your presence and actions,…Read more... -
Mindrolling Jetsun Khandro Rinpoche: Mindful Awareness without the Cushion
Here is Khandro Rinpoche on how we can keep the mindfulness we discover on the cushion as we go about daily activity. Hearing from my friend Gabriele that Rinpoche would…Read more... -
Insanity, Espresso and Teenage Wisdom
“Are you insane?” was one of my first thoughts on this melancholic and allegedly spring morning. My alarm was set early so that I could drag myself out of bed…Read more... -
Isn't It Amazing? No Matter What, Our Undistracted Mind is Always Available to Us!
Sometimes I feel like my life is spent in a dark, smoky, crowded, and noisy nightclub and that I’ve forgotten that there’s a door that’s always open if I choose…Read more... -
Meditation & compassion – how do they fit together?
The Buddhist teachings tell us that wisdom and compassion are like the two wings of a bird that will fly you to enlightenment and that you need both wings in…Read more... -
Compassion is Expanding the View of Self
This five minute video is the first part of a fascinating skype conversation between Elizabeth Namgyel and Erric. Elizabeth describes compassion as a radical expansion of self. Then she gives…Read more... -
Love and Insecurity
Not long ago, I fell in love with a beautiful woman. Gently, we became a bit closer. She rejected me, right at the moment, when I was SURE that we…Read more... -
Social Emotional Learning and Mindfulness-based Contemplative Practices in Education
A Meditation from the Field from Linda Lantieri and Madhavi Nambiar Mr. Gray, an educator in his second year of teaching in New York City wrote out his resignation letter…Read more...
To give your sheep or cow a large, spacious meadow is the way to control him. If you want to attain perfect calmness in your zazen [meditation], you should not be bothered by the various images you find in your mind. Let them come, and let them go. Then they will be under control.
Suzuki Roshi
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Sandra Pawula
My aspiration is to help others find true happiness and freedom. I write about personal transformation at Always Well Within (dot) com and instruct online courses for the Rigpa Distance Learning Program.
Are You Meditating from the Head Up?
Maybe you are like my friend who reads a book while holding her yoga stretches or the reluctant exerciser who devours the paper while walking briskly on his treadmill. It’s possible: you may exercise and still be relatively oblivious to the felt sense of your body.
When the mind is highly active, even meditation can become a stressful game of catching the thoughts or emotions before they catch you. It can be like watching a tennis match, where all your attention is on the ball. So much so that there’s a sense of meditating from the head up.
How to Get Rid of Thoughts and Emotions in Meditation
Basic meditation is sometimes called “calm abiding”, “peacefully remaining” or “tranquility meditation.”
Sounds good, right? Given the 15,000 to 50,000 thoughts popping about in your brain on any given day, a moment of quiet seems like outright bliss. I bet you’re wondering, “Where can I sign up?”
Many novice meditators believe that meditation means putting an end to thoughts and emotions. Well, at least the bothersome ones. I’ll tell you a little secret. Even experienced meditators may be hoping for the same isle of peace.
Is it devilish of me to burst the bubble?
When Things Fall Apart
An eclipse can trigger sudden, irrevocable change in your life that comes about due to external circumstances.
Yikes! Unexpected change. The kind of change that can make your head spin in disbelief and leave your knees knocking loudly.
Fortunately, every eclipse doesn’t effect every person so dramatically.
But still, you can’t escape change forever. There’s also the unfolding of karma - the fruition of your past actions - which can also twist your world around in abrupt and surprising ways.
Change will arrive in this lightning-like way at some point in your life. What will you do?
Making Friends with the Real World
On the other hand, you can’t exactly say that, because the world has come toward you, to return your friendship. It tried all kinds of harsh ways to deal with you at the beginning, but finally the world and you begin to speak with each other, and the world becomes a real world, a completely real world, not at all an illusory world or a confused world. It is a real world. You begin to realize the reality of elements, the reality of time and space, the reality of emotions—the reality of everything."
The Dangerous Habits of Coconuts
What do coconuts have to do with meditation? Good question! Here's the story.
One day, I was quietly walking along. Minding my own business, but not especially brilliantly awake.
Suddenly, in the blink of an eye and with a thunderous roar, a slew of coconut bombs pummeled the asphalt. Less than 30 feet in front of me.
Needless to say, this brought me back to the present moment with a jerk.
We all know how difficult it is to crack open a coconut. There's the hammer, nail and towel method, but this is still not a piece of cake.
But due to the force of gravity, the falling velocity of a coconut accelerates. These puppies - 15 or more - literally exploded splashing a big stretch of the road with coconut milk and littering it with cracked nuts, white meat, and gigantic branches.
Do You Ever Feel Like It's Impossible to Change?
Recently, I watched an extraordinary documentary called Doing Time, Doing Vipassana. Vipassana is a simple, non-sectarian meditation technique.
This film moved me deeply. It illustrates so vividly how anyone can change and the powerful transformation that can arise through simply looking at your own mind.
It might sound crazy, but Doing Time, Doing Vipassana actually renewed my faith in humanity and our inherent potential for goodness. It gave me hope. We can avert the environmental destruction of the planet. We can dispel violence and terror. We can create a harmonious world. If only we can learn to look within and abandon our own negative tendencies, thoughts, and emotions.
Sure, we need to take practical steps too. But without collectively changing the inner landscape of our minds, there is no hope for permanent, positive change in the world.
It's funny because I avoided watching the DVD for a number of months. The idea of watching a film about prison seemed depressing. But in the end, this is one of the most inspiring and motivational films I've ever seen.
If you feel like it's impossible to change yourself - or the world - don't give up. Watch this film instead. And even if you are not discouraged, I think you may find amazing inspiration here.
Is Meditation a Magic Bullet for a Stressed and Overwhelmed Life?
Do you sometimes feel in a stranglehold of overwhelm? So pressed for time that meditation feels like an unwarranted diversion from the important affairs of life?
The very thought of meditation may begin to spark annoyance. And the actual act may feel excruciatingly painful. When all the demands of life start pressing in, meditation can appear like an enemy on the battleground of life.
You came to meditation for a reason. You know that meditation is "good" for you, yet you resent the time it takes away from your real-world obligations.
How do you get through this?
10 Essential Tips for Taming a Wild Mind
Does your mind get all unruly when you try to meditate?
Beginning meditators often feel disheartened when they find their mind besieged by more thoughts and emotions than ever. They might even give up, thinking that meditation will never work because their mind is just too unruly.
Even those who find meditation easy in the beginning, may soon encounter a time when their mind suddenly feels out of control. "Advanced" meditators also hit turbulence from time-to-time.
Here's the secret: If your mind is a bit wild, you are not alone! Agitation is one of the two main obstacles in meditation; the other is dullness. The great meditators of the past encountered precisely the same problems when they tried to meditate. Lucky for us, they found solutions.
Using the Senses to Relax the Mind
Whales - with their dramatic presence and playful spirit - always captivate my attention. Suddenly, all my thoughts drop away. My mind is wholly attuned to watching the water, waiting for the next appearance of these magnificent creatures.
When this happens, it's almost as though meditation has naturally dawned in my mind. Wouldn't it be wonderful if meditation were always so easy?
Mindfulness Saves a Lot of Hassle
If you counted the number of times these small errors of mindlessness occur in a single day, you might be taken aback. In fact, a great deal of time, energy, and money can be lost through these simple mishaps of mis-attention.
Mindfulness is not just an esoteric practice for monks ensconced in Himalayan caves. It actually has a very powerful and practical application at work and in daily life. It can increase your effectiveness and productivity, bring more presence into your interactions, and foster more joy in your family life.





